What’s your problem?

The source of joy is always present, always available, and not dependent on circumstances. There are only two obstacles;
1) the ignorance that it is always available and present; and
2) valuing something other than peace and joy because of the secret pleasure of the payoff.  Along the Path to Enlightenment, David Hawkins, M.D., PH. D.


For years, I absolutely believed outside circumstances were the cause of how I felt inside. In other words, I loved to blame.

First the parents, then the ex, then the bosses, the economy, the struggling adult children, the weather, the family members who just don’t “get” me, the aging process, the hormones,….the list goes on and on and on.

Eventually I started to “wake up” to the fact that this kind of thinking was getting me nowhere and if I really wanted to change, I’d have to look at my part. (ugh)

But because I was blessed with the Grace to “grow up”, today I absolutely believe the source of any disturbance comes from what’s going on with me on the inside.

Namely ‘where am I at spiritually’???

A simple example is to reflect on any recurring incident. For instance, a child spills the milk, AGAIN. One day I can react with a ‘oh boy, go get a paper towel and wipe that up’. Another day the response can be the total opposite, ‘Oh come on! How many times are you going to do this? Why can’t you be more careful?’

Same people, same situation, same milk.

So why are the reactions so different?

I’m obviously more at peace (inside) on the day I react in kindness. It’s just proof (and I loooovvve proof) outside influences do not have to control me. And this pertains to EVERYTHING. From the spilled milk, to the roof caving in from so much freakin’ snow, to the unacceptable (to me) situational disturbance in any of my relationships.

Wow! Can you say freedom?!?!?!

Of course, now that I know this, I won’t be able to blame anything or anybody for my “problems” in life (uh oh) – but – this will steer me faster into the solution of which I am solely responsible – as well as – capable. And the solution is to once again line up with God.

Infinite Source is always ready, steady, willing and available and when I do this I WILL once again know peace.

So whilst I’m stumbling along the path to enlightenment, I’ll hopefully become more aware of when I’m getting caught up in the blame game of “if everyone would just straighten up and fly right, see things my way, (and learn how to drive, too while you’re at it!) then I’d be just fine!!!!” Oh wait!


It DOES work if you work it!


24 thoughts on “What’s your problem?

  1. Hi Cheryl,

    Very insightful post. It really brings home the concept of a paradigm shift. I had always heard that term, but didn’t really understand what it meant. You have explained it beautifully. We can’t control situations, but we CAN control how we react to the situations.

    Have a great weekend and stay warm 🙂



    1. Thanks for your comment Nancy. This is good to know because then we only have ourselves to tend to making life so much easier 🙂
      ps we have more snow coming our way…….:-P


  2. Your words ring so true with me. I am with you stumbling along the same path to enlightenment trying hard not to blame others for things that are my responsibility. It’s difficult but over many months I continue to improve. Love to you from Jenna


    1. It is something I personally have to pay attention to as I’m more naturally negative. It does get better though like you said and my life is so much better for it thats’s for sure!


  3. Beth Ryan

    Cheryl, this is amazing! Thanks for reminding me to trust and turn to Infinite Source rather than Finite Self :). I dig peace today and would so much rather respond to life situations with peace and calm; but darn if i don’t still dabble in doubt, stress, fear, impatience, “do it my way already!”.
    You are an amazing writer- keep it coming 🙂


  4. Yes! Absolutely. I too, now move into the space of what’s going on inside of me that is causing me to react this way. I’ve found a few tools to really dig deep into my past to see what’s driving some of my behaviors, and one that I love is hypnotherapy. In fact, after having taken a break from it for almost a year, I started back recently. Loving the revelations and rewiring.


    1. Thanks for your comment. I’ve never tried hypnotherapy. It sounds interesting. I love all the wonderful tools available for us to try along the way, especially the ones that really “speak” to us.


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